𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝘀𝗼 𝗲𝗮𝘀𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝘂𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀. The ones that make you harder on yourself than anyone else, the ones that make you feel like a failure for human mistakes, even the ones that tell you you’re being selfless and sacrificial if you give and give until you have nothing left.
𝗡𝗲𝘄𝘀𝗳𝗹𝗮𝘀𝗵: 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀. In fact, I could even argue that it’s being lazy, because learning to work hard while also giving yourself grace, learning to accept your humanness even while striving for progress, is HARD. And though short-term you may be sacrificing your own comforts for very well-meaning intentions, in the longterm you are setting yourself up to crumble, and modeling how to run yourself ragged to your kids. 𝗜𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲?
When you go and go and go until you pass out, or you pour out and pour out until you are too dry to be patient with your family, is that love? Healthy boundaries are loving. Self-care is loving…not only to yourself, but to those you seek to serve. 𝗦𝗲𝘁 𝗮𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀.