Ice cream SSat

Ice Cream Challenge

๐—ฆ๐—˜๐—Ÿ๐—™-๐—–๐—”๐—ฅ๐—˜ ๐—–๐—›๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ๐—˜๐—ก๐—š๐—˜!

No kids, significant others or work-related stress allowed, for 8 whole minutes. You pick the time of day, but GET IT DONE and prove you did it by posting a photo in the comments! Practice some self-care and see how it feels. Also, ICE CREAM!!! And because you’re hiding, YOU DON’T HAVE TO SHARE WITH ANYBODY!

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Dragon’s Kiss Excerpt

Is there anything more fun than writing about assassins and dragons?! I submit the there is not!

What do you think of this quote from Semra in my current work in progress, ๐ท๐‘Ÿ๐‘Ž๐‘”๐‘œ๐‘›’๐‘  ๐พ๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘ ?

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Treat yourself the way you want your children to treat themselves when they are parents.

Oof.

๐—œ๐˜’๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜† ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€. The ones that make you harder on yourself than anyone else, the ones that make you feel like a failure for human mistakes, even the ones that tell you you’re being selfless and sacrificial if you give and give until you have nothing left.

๐—ก๐—ฒ๐˜„๐˜€๐—ณ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ต: ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜’๐˜€ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€. In fact, I could even argue that it’s being lazy, because learning to work hard while also giving yourself grace, learning to accept your humanness even while striving for progress, is HARD. And though short-term you may be sacrificing your own comforts for very well-meaning intentions, in the longterm you are setting yourself up to crumble, and modeling how to run yourself ragged to your kids. ๐—œ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ธ๐˜€ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ?

When you go and go and go until you pass out, or you pour out and pour out until you are too dry to be patient with your family, is that love? Healthy boundaries are loving. Self-care is loving…not only to yourself, but to those you seek to serve. ๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€, ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€.

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Frazzled Bunny Excerpt!

I just had to laugh when I saw this illustration. I had sent Katy, my incredible illustrator, some gifs and photos of what I was going for and she NAILED IT!!!

Parents, tell me you know what I’m talking about! We all have those moments…those days…and if we as adults get frazzled and frustrated, how can we expect our little ones to manage theirs any better?

This book, I Love You When You’re Angry, normalizes emotions for both adults and children and shares how love transcends them all, is unconditional, and is neither earned nor lost by good behavior.

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Little Houdini

We have been moving this week! Luckily last night baby got to sleep in his crib again, but up until now we have had him on his mattress in our closet…and look where he found himself. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ

It’s like Toy Story – he does his best rolling and scooting maneuvers when we’re not looking! He was in THE MIDDLE horizontal so he could roll side to side and be safe, but nope, he escaped diagonal and backward AND narrowly avoided the extra cushioning I had added to the sides. That’s cool. He wasnโ€™t upset though, just hanging out. Also, he turns 4 months in another week!

What Houdini stories do you have of your kids?

Survival SSat

You survived the week!

Sometimes just making it through the week is a win, am I right?? Everybody got fed, even if it was half a strawberry and a Ritz cracker. Your teen may be sulking, but nothing got thrown out the window – and if it did, well hey, at least you kept everybody alive! You’re the epitome of #goals right now in my book! It’s important to differentiate survival mode days from regular days because it impacts our expectations. If your basement flooded and your kid smeared poop on the walls, well, the dishes will just have to wait. The same can be true emotionally as well…you may need an emotional safe place and break to care for yourself when you’ve been overwhelmed.

The good news is, if you’re reading this, YOU MADE IT through this week! How are you celebrating?!

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Gremlin Excerpt

Check out this sneak peek of ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜Ž๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜Š๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ! What do you think?

Pre-order today:

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Schedule self care SSat

Self-Care: Put it on the Calendar!

Self-care is as intentional as any discipline – working out, eating right, or learning the violin. Too often, we focus on ourselves last, forgetting that we arenโ€™t good to anybody if weโ€™re dead on our feet. Or perhaps we know we should take care of ourselves, and we are totally getting around to itโ€ฆeventually.ย 

The truth is, there will never be the perfect time for self-care. Have you noticed thereโ€™s hardly ever a โ€œperfect timeโ€ to do anything worth doing? Between working outside the home, working by staying inside the home, family stress, job stress, life stressโ€ฆif you have to carve out time just to get groceries, you certainly arenโ€™t going to stumble upon a three hour block of uninterrupted time one day to partake in some much needed rest and recuperating.

Of course, self-care doesnโ€™t have to be three hours. It could be 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there, and an hour set apart once a week or at the end of a long day. The important thing is to be proactive and schedule time for self-care so that you arenโ€™t constantly bottling up all the weight of the world and never letting any of it roll off your shoulders. 

If the transmission of your car died, you would stop and pour a few hundred bucks into it to get it back up and running.ย I may have left the โ€œcheck engineโ€ light on in my โ€™98 sedan so long it became a cosmetic feature, but I at least made sure it always had gas and everything important was good to go.

Why do you take care of your car better than you take care of yourself?

What happens when you run out of gas? These are the every day things that keep you going.

What happens to your system when you run on empty for a prolonged period of time? These are the things that donโ€™t break overnight, but slowly wear down until you realize you canโ€™t keep on like this.

What happens when you have neglected yourself so long that the pressure builds up, and you overflow and burnout? Would you like your friends and kids to treat themselves the way you treat yourself? Why are we so invaluable in our own eyes that itโ€™s easier to grasp self-care in relation to friends and family than in our own lives?

Plan it. Schedule it. Stick to it.

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Process: Paper Quality

Premium paper makes all the difference! 

Here we see The Gremlin in my Couch with standard paper (and a trim printing issue – resolved) on top and premium paper on the bottom. Um, YES PLEASE! 

SO BRIGHT AND PRETTY! Only the best for you guys!

If you missed out on the Kickstarter, you can still pre-order at erinwinters.bigcartel.com !

CoH Kilith quote

The Cost of Humanity: Kilith Excerpt

Well, what do you say? Would you rather have something that makes sense, but doesn’t work, or something that works, but doesn’t make sense? What does this quote make you think of, and were do you think the inspiration came from? Let me know in the comments!